Protecting and nurturing your health and emotional well being by communicating your needs assertively in your relationships is a part of taking self-responsibility for your actions.  Other important parts of self-responsibility include:

• Acknowledging that you are solely responsible for the choices in your life.
• Accepting that you are responsible for what you choose to feel or think.
• Accepting that you choose the direction for your life.
• Accepting that you cannot blame others for the choices you have made.
• Recognizing that you are your best cheerleader; it is not reasonable or healthy for you to depend on others to make you feel good about yourself.
• Recognizing that as you enter maturity, you determine how your self-esteem will develop.
• Taking preventive health oriented steps of structuring your life with time management, stress management, confronting fears, and burnout prevention.
• Taking an honest inventory of your strengths, abilities, talents, virtues, and positive points.

Loss And Gain - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
When I compare
What I have lost with what I have gained,
What I have missed with what attained,
Little room do I find for pride.

I am aware
How many days have been idly spent;
How like an arrow the good intent
Has fallen short or been turned aside.
But who shall dare
To measure loss and gain in this wise?
Defeat may be victory in disguise;
The lowest ebb is the turn of the tide.